Truth be told we’ve all or are still struggling with low self-esteem and it’s hard to recognize it when you’re in the thick of it. But when it’s all said and done is there room to start over again knowing your self worth?
There was a period in my life where I was norm to a lot of things and all I could do was go through the motions. In that period I made mistakes that can never be retrieved.
The biggest mistake came in the form of a relationship I knew I had no business starting, because he told me his objective was to be friends for a very long time. Knowing I wasn’t seeking friendship I should have eliminated the relationship. Instead I kept allowing him to orbit my universe as though I was oblivious to his truth. They say the truth will set you free but if you’re deep into low self-esteem the truth becomes an elusion. Even now admitting that self-esteem plagued my decision is difficult as I’ve always thought of myself as being confident. After a year of back and forth there wasn’t a title in sight, it appeared to be a situationship. And when I subtracted myself from the cycle my heart was broken while he moved on to marriage.
When we choose to ignore the truth the hurt from the fall out is unmeasurable. But you have to know and believe that you’re an overcomer no matter what. You have to believe that the pain will make you stronger and for future reference you won’t walk this path again. Picking up the pieces was hard but learning the resilience I possess propelled me forward. And the friends and family who had provided warning signals were there supporting my healing process. Although low self-esteem may lead you to stay in toxic relationships, you’ll soon recognize what you need to do in order to rebuild your confidence and elevate your self-worth.